Confession #1

How many times have you hooked-up with someone from work and WISHED that they would mimic their work role?  I have to admit, it’s happened way too many times for me.  Mind you, working in hospitality management provides plenty of opportunity for flirt and fantasy.  The constant power play and banter, so many players with various roles, everyone trying to sell themselves in one way or another.  Most only succeed at providing fun.

It’s been my experience that my work fantasy should be just that- a work fantasy.  I find myself attracted to people in their specified roles, not as their daily selves…  Every time an associate and I have interacted outside of work, the fizz just wasn't there.  Something about the taboo of flirtation and sex on the job heightened my libido and made that person more attractive to me.  It wasn't the person, it was the situation and the fact that I was in heat.

By heat I mean that my primitive side completely overpowered my body.  My body had a pulsating beacon that radiated from between my thighs and bathed my senses in sensual cocaine and I needed.  My vagina pulsed with the sensations it wanted to impress upon some unsuspecting cock, craving the feel of a stiff rod buried unflinchingly deep within its tight folds…  

Don’t get me wrong, the actions and mechanics of the person’s foreplay and rhythm would influence my method of achieving orgasm, but I’d achieve it regardless.  That’s with every encounter.  But remove them from the work environment and I have to work so much harder to make myself cum.  At work, all it would take is the mere thought of feeling their skin and sweet parts buried inside of me…  My fantasy made me cum faster than reality, if reality made me cum much at all.

Needless to say, I have an interesting fantasy reel that plays in my mind when I need that extra push to send me over the edge of ecstasy.  

Confession #1- It kills me that I only have one lover now that actually role-plays with me intimately.

Trust, Vulnerability, & Growth

It's amazing how many people ruin relationships by refusing to open up to their partners.  In addition to attraction (be it physical, emotional, or "instinctual"), trust is required to build lasting relationships.

One may ask, "how do we build trust?"  It starts by sharing yourself with them.  If you withhold who you are (that you deep down inside where you sit alone) from the person you're in a relationship with, why bother?  How can you build something long-term on an illusion?  It's impossible. 

Honesty is always key.  You must communicate with your lover what you want and why you want.  Share your personal dogma.  Not your religion, but your personal code of ethics.  This is an easy test to find out whether or not they are worth your time.  If you are willing to compromise, ask yourself why?  Are they worth it?

Unfortunately, you have to allow your partner the opportunity to fail you.  True, there is the possibility you'll find heartbreak.  But rather than focusing on the downside, one should focus on the possible outcome.  Failure is the perfect opportunity for a growing experience in relationships- if you allow it to be. 

Communicate with your lover, explain to them-

1. WHEN they hurt you.
2. WHAT they did to hurt you.
3. WHY it hurt you. 
4. HOW they hurt you.
5. HOW they can repair the damage to your trust.

If your lover doesn't respond to your heartfelt opinion regarding their lapse in judgment, why bother?  If they don't care about you enough to consider you first, why bother?

It all starts with trust.  You have to open up in order to grow.  You have to make yourself vulnerable in order to discover learn whether or not someone is right for you.  It makes no sense to attach oneself emotionally to someone who doesn't give a damn about you.